Sex and the City of God...Series on Marriage

Sex and the City of God
Series on Marriage

Outine
Gender Roles Husband & Wife Are Equal Worth To God
-Gen 1:26-28
-Gen 2:21-25

God Made
“Male and Female”
“Replenish and Ruling”
Curses After Fall
-Pain in Child Birth
-Tyranny in Headship
-Rebellion in Submission
-Work Will Be Hard
-Presence of Toil and Pain

Baptist Faith and Message
The roles function to show how Christ loves the Church.

Ethical Application
Marriage Between Believer and Unbeliever

You think it is possible for an unbeliever to understand that marriage is a PICTURE of how Christ LOVES the Church?

Wouldn’t even know what love is EXCEPT God loved us FIRST
1 John 4:7-11
But…What Does Paul Say in 1 Cor.7:10-14

Youth Bible Study 2009....Ten Commandments Intro (Teaching Outline)

Youth Bible Study 2009
The Ten Commandments

Background Particulars
-The law…Rules to follow…The law came in the time of Moses, before Jesus Christ, therefore, before the gospel as we know it. It was these commandments that guided the Christian life.
-10 commandments (rules) that encompasses every ethical decision to be made…this is done with a broad and narrow approach….discuss later
-Written by GOD HIMSELF as a guide for His people…shows God’s character and love for His people

10 Commandments
Duty to God…First Four Love Your God
Parallels Matthew 22:36-40

Duty to man…Remaining Six Love Your Neighbor

Broad and Narrow
All Ethics (applied theology) Can Be split Into 10 Commandments.
All one needs is the 10 Commandments to make proper biblically sound decisions.

Narrow Meaning ___________________

Honor Your Father and Mother
Broad Meaning ____________________

So What Does This Mean

God did not give just 10 rules to follow…He gave an ethical system to study and adhere to.

Man LOVES rules and structure
Examples

People in same seats on Sundays
You have to write a paper or project you have never done before
Start something new (school, career, job) rules tell you what to expect and how to study

Sex and the City of God...Marriage is An Image

I have started a 6 week series on marriage with my youth group and this past Wednesday was the second lesson in that series. I started this series first of all because after reading and preparing and going through pre-marriage counciling I decided to further my studies and become the man of God and husband God would have me to be but I also did this for my youth. They would deny it infront of me of course but in some way or another they are thinking about the opposite sex whether it is physical, bf and gf, or dating and I consider it a role of mine to teach them BIBLICALLY what marriage means and what they should be doing now that honors God.
It is more important, now more than ever that teenagers from a biblical point of view understand what marriage is and how to prepare their life in order for God to bless them with the one they should marry and this is the reason for this biblical series on Wed Nite Youth at NHBC.

Marriage Is A Picture
“Marriage…That thing when you hang out a lot…”
Do You Think This Is A Good Picture of Christ?
What Is A Picture? ____________________
What Is An Icon? ____________________

God Created Marriage…..To Show A Picture
A Picture of His Love for the Church

Isaiah 62:5
Ephesians 5:25-33
1 Corinthians 6:15-20
2 Corinthians 11:2

First of all we don’t deserve to show His love
Most ppl misuse God’s purpose of marriage
This misuse destroys the image of God’s love

GROW TO BE AN IMAGE BEARER NOT BREAKER

Ethical Issue SINGLENESS
God calls some people to singleness
But with conditions
1 Corinthians 7:1-9
-To be single is a gift from God
-Paul says it is good to be like he is, single so to focus

ALL TIME and ALL ENERGY to the Lord’s work
-One must be content…

My Wedding Vows...Accountability

My wedding vows to Britney was the easiest and yet hardest thing I have ever written. It was easy in that we connect and have so much in common and I have such a deep love for her but hard because of having to put that love into word. We choose to write our own vows in addition to the traditional to add that special unique touch to our wedding ceremony. These vows were read by me (crying just about the entire time) to Britney infront of all our family and friends and is a promise to my wife and I post it here to keep me even that much more accountable. Marriage was created by God to show a picture of how God loves the church. I pray that who attended heard my vows and all here read them and keep me accountable to the point that when people look at my marriage with Britney and see my love for her that they can take a step back and say.......WOW........That is how much God loves me!!


My Dearest Britney

I look at the facts and the calendar on the wall and things just don’t seem to add up. I think back to when we first met when I was in the 6th grade over 10 years ago and see how close we have become. I think back to our first date Dec 29 2005 3 years ago where God would lead us to where we are today. I even look back to when I placed this ring on your finger on Dec 23 2 years ago and remember July 31 2006 when I asked your dad for his blessing for a wedding to come in the future and he responded jokingly at the time, the years will feel like days but Britney that was the truth. Only days have passed since our first meeting and date due to my deep love for you and we still have forever set before us.

When I look at you it is easy to see that God has a perfect plan that was set in motion long before this 27th day of December year 2008. Britney Joy, I look back and realize I have loved you my entire life. I did not always know what you looked like but I knew of the relationship with God my wife would have, her dedication to her church and family, what it took to make her feel special…like brushing hair out of your face… or even going on a paddle boat ride at my grandparents house, I even knew what made her laugh. God is the one who revealed these attributes of my future and I can stand here today, before God, before my family and yours and know that you are the wife that God created for me. I have loved you my entire life, the only thing that has changed is that I know what she looks like. God is perfect and therefore would have a perfect plan but the AMAZING thing is not that God has a perfect plan but that God takes time to show us His plan.

When on our 1st date you laid your head on my shoulder and later you told me “I could do this forever”…God revealed His plan

When God revealed our mutual love for Christian service, family, mission trips, science and knowledge…God revealed His plan

When God brought me to serve in this church under the leadership of my pastor, friend, mentor all of these being your father…God revealed His plan

God has a perfect plan but the truly amazing part is that He chose to reveal it to sinful man whom is not worthy. And this very day, Britney we choose to have a plan to be married for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health but from this day I choose to not have a plan to love you but vow to reveal my love for you day after day. No matter the time, situation or hardships…a marriage with you will feel like days safe in God’s perfect plan for my life….I love you and always will

Sex and the City of God...Biblical Marriage Series

Creation of Marriage (Teaching Outline)

Redemptive Story
The writings found in the Bible were placed there and written for a specific reason. If one were to read Scripture looking for a purpose, one would find that it is quite clear what it would be. After reading and looking at the Scriptures as a whole, one would find that the story of the Bible is the narrative of God coming to be with his people as their Lord, in his countrol, authority, and presence. After the creation and teh fall, the story is about redemption, and thus about Jesus.

It is all about God coming to rule over man and after the fall it was on Jesus coming to die for the sins of man on the cross at Calvary. In the perspective of marriage, it is very important to see that Jesus is and always has been God's plan to save humanity. Jesus was not some afterthought or a plan b after Adam and Eve sinned but was ALWAYS the plan and means and this thought points us into the right direction. If Jesus was the plan, how was Jesus to come amoung man, to live and die?

God’s Intention for Marriage-Gen 1 and 2

Giving of Cultural Mandate-Gen 1:28
-Man’s whole life is governed by God’s Commands
-Man is to subdue the Earth and have Dominion over
-Fruitful; Multiply and fill the earth with human beings created in the image of God

who, and fill the Earth with divine presence.
Protoevangelium-Gen 3:15

The family is the vehicle God uses to fulfill His purpose for our lives, the culture mandate and the coming of Jesus (redemptive story). God used marriage and family to bring Jesus and without Jesus we would not have a chance.

Ethical Issue-When Is The Right Time?

Bible doesn’t specify age of marriage (therefore) sex.
During Bible times, people got married younger
(Suits male sexual peak….Less single parents)
But young marriage today doesn’t fit well into modern culture
Cant reach proper education levels for career
Age and Biblical teaching keeps marriage….Now Days